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The beliefs that shape us most often go unseen. Embedded in our identity, they rarely get questioned. They guide choices, relationships, and interpretations—quietly, powerfully, and invisibly.
For many people, one of the most persistent emotional filters is loneliness. Loneliness doesn’t always scream. It whispers. It colors how we respond, interpret, and connect. Often, even strength is built on the foundation of isolation—resilience formed from hyper-independence rather than support.
One of the most beautiful—and challenging—aspects of being in relationship is the way others act as mirrors. In their presence, we often catch glimpses of ourselves we hadn’t seen before. It might be the tone we use, a reaction we didn’t know we had, or a long-held assumption.
Whether we are creating art or life, the first stages of any process have similar components. Anxiety, apprehension, self-doubt, insecurity, excitement, fear, energy, and containment are just a few of the emotions that come up at the beginning of an new endeavor or process.
Whether we are creating art or life, the first stages of any process have similar components. Anxiety, apprehension, self-doubt, insecurity, excitement, fear, energy, and containment are just a few of the emotions that come up at the beginning of an new endeavor or process.
Another stage that mirrors emotional life is messiness. This can manifest as psychological or emotional chaos—the moment when all the carefully balanced parts of life seem to fall apart. In caregiving, parenting, or any high-responsibility role, this phase is familiar.
Another stage that mirrors emotional life is messiness. This can manifest as psychological or emotional chaos—the moment when all the carefully balanced parts of life seem to fall apart. In caregiving, parenting, or any high-responsibility role, this phase is familiar.
One of the earliest lessons a creative process can offer is how to recognize and honor the stage of resistance. Resistance is often misunderstood. In many cultural narratives, it’s something to be avoided, pushed through, or overcome.
There’s an old adage: “Life imitates art.” This phrase holds true in many ways. Life is not static—it is dynamic and alive. It is, in itself, a creative process. As humans, we are shaped by the life we lead and the process of living.
For many people, the pressure to have answers—quickly and clearly—creates distress. In mental health and creative work alike, the antidote isn’t more certainty. It’s rhythm.
The creative process is rarely linear. It unfolds in phases—some intuitive, some chaotic, and all essential. For many artists and creatives, the process doesn’t begin with a clear vision. It begins with an impression—a feeling, a color, a word, or a mood.
One way to support emotional well-being is to become more fluent in describing positive emotions. This can be done using an emotions wheel—a visual tool that offers a broader range of emotional vocabulary beyond “happy” or “fine.”
In modern life, it’s easy for joy to feel indulgent or misplaced. Many people live in a state of high alert—navigating work demands, social comparison, and ongoing collective stress.
Joy often arises in simple, ordinary moments—a smile from a loved one, the scent of blooming flowers, a shared laugh, or the satisfaction of creative expression. These experiences can be brief, but they are real and meaningful.
Being a beginner teaches us to be patient with ourselves. To stay curious when we're uncomfortable. To stay present when outcomes are unclear.
Being a beginner teaches us to be patient with ourselves. To stay curious when we're uncomfortable. To stay present when outcomes are unclear.
A few weeks ago, I was having dinner with friends when one of them shared her personal challenge: to try something new each month. As she recounted the experiences she had pursued so far this year, I felt admiration rise—and then something else.
We hear a lot about self-care—eat well, sleep, meditate. These things matter. But sometimes, what we need isn’t more advice or another routine. What we need is a deeper way of relating to ourselves.
Life moves quickly. Between work, relationships, and the daily demands of living, there’s often little space to pause.
Resistance is information. When we face a blank page or a creative block, it’s easy to assume something is wrong. But it’s often part of the process. It reflects our fears, perfectionism, or inner doubts—not failure.
It’s a quiet question that lives in many of us: Do I truly deserve love and self-worth? For some, the answer feels clear. For others, it’s complicated. And for many, it’s buried beneath layers of overachievement, perfectionism, or silence.
A friend recently challenged me with a simple but profound invitation: practice deservedness. And ever since, the word has been echoing in my mind. Deservedness. Deservedness. What do I believe I truly deserve?...
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